Day 1. Finally, we are making a baby!

I’ve started our blog quite late but also just in time. After what feels like an eternity, we’ve finally arrived, we are starting our journey to parenthood!

To summarise, here are the steps we have taken:

1) Decided which treatment: Obviously, as two women, making babies doesn’t come natural to us! But we both wanted as much involvement as possible with the conception. I’ve always wanted to be pregnant, so the perfect solution was to make the embryos with M’s eggs and transfer them to me. This is still a relatively uncommon procedure and is very costly, but we both felt strongly that we wanted to make our babies together and this is ideal.

2) Decided which clinic: This discussion began a long time ago (maybe a year). We first decided to have treatment in N. Cyprus, mainly because it would have been much cheaper. With M’s Turkish, we felt confident that we could trust the clinic more than the average foreigners because there wouldn’t be a language barrier. However, after a lot of research online we slowly lost our trust. The main problem being that the sperm donor would remain completely anonymous meaning that our future children would have no access to any information and we wouldn’t even know if they had used the donor we’d chosen.

So then we decided to play it safe and go with (perhaps) the most well-known fertility clinic in the UK. So far it’s paid off!

3) Attended consultation:  This consisted of a meeting with a consultant to write up a treatment plan and a vaginal ultrasound. This was really exciting. M had 18+ follicles and I had 12, we both looked healthy 🙂

4) Blood tests!!:  These are a normal part of any fertility procedure but our clinic was particularly strict and gave us a lengthy list of tests to have done. Fortunately our GP was very helpful and we managed to get the majority through the NHS, which saved us a lot of money. Here’s what we were tested for:

Me: HIV, Hep. B, Hep. C, Chlamydia, Rubella immunity, Blood group and rhesus factor.

M: HIV 1&2, Hep. B, Hep.C, HTLV 1&2, Syphillis/TPHA, Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, CMV IgM & IgG, Chromosomes, Cystic Fibrosis, Blood Group and rhesus factor.

All came back normal fortunately although M tested positive for CMV (IgM), which is very common. If you test negative, you would need to ensure your donor is negative too, though our sperm bank only accepts negative donors.

5) Chose a sperm donor:  We must have looked through the entire catalogue a million times in the past few months! There are a lack of donors in the UK and not a lot of information is given, maybe this is a good thing, that’s debatable. As for our choice of donor, that will remain private but we’re satisfied we made the right choice!

6) Ordered medication: We took advice from others on the internet and shopped around for the drugs. We’ve been prescribed; Orgalutron, Gonal-F, Buserelin, Cyclogest and Progynova. I’ll write about them more when we start taking them! We ended up ordering them from a supermarket pharmacy and saved £500 on the clinic’s price!

7) Gonapeptyl injection: I had this injection 7 days ago, it’s meant to lower the levels of oestrogen and progesterone in the body. 

8) Wait for period! We sycronised our periods by using the contraceptive pill. It took a couple of cycles to get it right because M’s period would start sooner than mine after stopping the pill. This month we perfected our syncronisation and both started at the exact same time THIS MORNING!

So that means, we are on DAY 1 of our baby making treatment – it’s finally arrived! Here we go!




  1. Wow, that’s brilliant how you two are doing it. My wife and I considered that but ended up going with the plan for me to use her brother as my donor. Unfortunately (as you probably saw if you read the TTC Journey page on my blog) I lost two pregnancies at 12 weeks and haven t been able to conceive since. So now we are onto our third donor…

  2. I’m finally reading these entries! The estrogen pills must be getting to me because I’m almost crying just reading your blog. I just can’t believe that you just started in April and you’re already pregnant! Yay.

    • Bless you! We do feel really really lucky and certainly won’t be taking this pregnancy for granted. We will be so happy to have successful pregnancy already because we would love to have a big family and hope to be planning for siblings straight after! (She says now….)

      It’s weird to think that this was just one month ago but we had been planning this for a long time and it feels like we’ve been waiting forever. In fact we all ready have a mountain of baby clothes we’ve been collecting from every trip to a shopping centre in the past year! We had to keep putting it off purely because I didn’t have a stable job and we had a bit of saving up to do. I’m so happy that it’s all happening now.

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